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being 18.

“Eighteen. We were maturing into different people, and 
having to accept those differences meant we were faced with yet another consequence of growing up”

-  Reply to 1997 : Sung Shi Won - 

Quote that express everything

“

Men and women expect different things, face different sides and dream different dreams.. The relationship between a man and a woman is of everlasting love and fighting. They get upset and console.. They fight and make up.. They hurt and embrace.

 

A relationship as complicated as manic-depressive disorder. But the hardest part is it can’t start if the timing is wrong. A relationship that is too complicated and too sensitive. There is one relationship that’s as difficult yet unavoidable. A relationship that’s tedious but unevitable. A relationship that lasts your entire life.. that’s family

”

—	Yoon Yoon Jae — Reply 1997

Reply to 1997

Did I mention to all that I had fall in love with the drama, "Reply to 1997"? Yup, fall in love head over heel. This drama, not only include my favorite Seo In Guk, but also contain a heartwarming story. Basically, it portrays on the teenage's life. How a tiny situation can bring impact in teenager. Been there, feel those moment. Maybe, that's make the drama closer to the viewers. All the puppy love, the determination, the choices to make, make a person better in the future. Don't know what to describe it. After all, I really love this drama. This drama become my number one favorite drama for all time. :) Been rewatching all over again. Love their friendships, the heartwarming of family and the love interest.

“First love. The reason why we think first love is beautiful is not because people we first loved were actually handsome or pretty. It’s because we were unconditional, innocent, or a bit stupid at the time of first love. And because…And because we know that we can never go back to that young, passionate time of our days. […] First love is a bit rash without any calculation, we throw ourselves with passion and finally come to face failure. But it is at the same time dramatic. It comes with inexplicable feelings that we never get to experience again. So first love becomes the most dramatic moment of our lives. It’s okay to fail. Tragic stories stay longer than ‘happily ever after’. It’s nice to have that wonderful story as one chapter of one’s life. […] First love is a period of time. It never comes back. If the next love comes, time has to yield for that new love. It might not be as innocent as the first love, but it would be a little more mature, due to the pain suffered with the first love. A person who dreams of love is the one who waits. And a person who waits can recognize the love when it comes near him. […] After the romance, the real life comes in. Innocence gets dirty, passion gets cold, and youth gets old with cleverness. So first love becomes part of one’s exhausted daily life. That’s why first love looks like it can’t be accomplished. Because no one talks about a successful romance with first loves. Thus, it’s okay to be like this.”

- Reply to 1997 : Yoon Yoon Jae -

p/s:  This drama has plenty of quotes to quote. You know how I love quote. :)

teenager

“An age where you feel like you could love anyone, where you put everything on the line for the smallest of things. Eighteen. Adults say that it’s an age where we laugh if a leaf tumbles by. But back then, we were more serious than any adult, more intense, and had our strength tested. 1997. That was how our eighteen was beginning.”

-Reply to 1997-

secret love :)

InsyaAllah, when he is the one, Allah will make our path easier. :)

a story to tell

Excrept from IIUM Online, wrote by Madam. Fauziah Mohd Noor

Assalamualaikum dan salam Ramadhan.
Dua semester lepas, seorang pelajar saya (perempuan), pernah mengirimkan sms kepada saya, "Madam, terima kasih di atas segala2nya. Betapa saya ingin memeluk madam seperti memeluk ibu saya, tapi saya malu." Saya membalas sms dia, " Tak pe..insyaAllah, masih ada peluang utk kita berjumpa semester depan. Dan kalau jumpa nanti, peluklah saya kalau awak nak."

Semalam
Dia datang datang ke ofis saya, dengan wajah suram dan inai masih dijari.Belum sempat berbual panjang, dia memeluk saya dengan erat dan disulam dengan tangisan. basah bahu saya dengan airmatanya. Saya bertanya, "Kenapa? awak sepatutnya gembira sebab baru saja bernikah dengan pilihan hati awak." Dalam sedu dia menjawab, "Madam, saya nak bercerai, saya dah tak boleh nak teruskan hidup dengan dia. Dia sangat berbeza dgn dia yang saya kenal sewaktu bercinta dulu"

Astaghfirullah...hancur luluh hati saya waktu itu bagai kaca terhempas ke batu. Tak perlulahsaya sebut kenapa dan mengapa dia hendak bercerai ketika inai masih di jari. Saya cuma ingin menasihati pelajar2 saya, dan rakan2 FB saya yang masih muda, ingatlah pernikahan bukannya trial and error. Pernikahan bukannya ujian amali atau ujian praktikal. Janganlah hanya kerana kawan2 kamu telah bertunang, maka kamu rasa kamu juga perlu bertunang. janganlah hanya kerana kawan2 kamu telah bernikah, maka kamu rasa kamu juga perlu bernikah. Pernikahan adalah sesuatu yang sangat suci dan ianya memerlukan pengertian, pengorbanan dan kesabaran. Kesabaran bukan bertahan utk seminggu dua atau sebulan atau setahun. tapi kesabaran itu perlu utk membuktikan kamu beriman kepada Allah dan RasulNYA.
Kepada pelajar2 yg telah bernikah di usia muda dan masih belajar, saya merayu kepada kamu semua hari ini...tolong jangan terlalu dipaparkan kemesraan kamu di facebook. jangan terlalu menunjukkan kesronokan bernikah di facebook. saya mohon dengan setulus hati saya. tolong kurangkan posting2 romantik kamu di FB. Saya tidak mahu lebih ramai pelajar yang merasakan seronoknya bernikah.Tapi mereka lupa bahawa di sebalik keseronokan pernikahan itu dipenuhi dengan tanggungjawab yg amat berat.

Dan bukan semua orang bernasib baik mendapat pasangan hidup yang baik. Jadi, cukup2lah kamu berposting tentang bulan madu kamu, hentikan dialog2 romantik kamu di FB, ucapan sayang dan cinta itu simpan utk tatapan kamu dan pasangan kamu saja.TOLONGLAH....saya merayu daripada kamu. Dan kepada pelajar2 yg masih berfikir tentang bakal suami atau isteri, berjumpalah dengan mereka yg lebih arif tentang hidup. Mintalah pendapat mereka tentang mencari pasangan hidup. Ingatlah anak2ku, adik2ku..pernikahan bukan satu percubaan, tapi satu tanggungjawab yang amat berat. Saya tidak sanggup melihat kamu menangis...tidak sanggup sebab saya sangat sayangkan kamu. jaga diri kamu baik2.

The moral of story is: Wait patiently. Do not rush things to catch up with other people. You will meet your other half, someday, with Allah's will. Allah is the best planner. Sometimes, you didn't get want you want right now, because Allah saves the best for last. Maybe you will get something better that you ever imagine. Just be patience. :)

a penny of thought

Picture tells a thousand words.

Dear friend,

Don't underestimate people by looking at their life. Nobody's life is perfect. People can look cheerful and happy outside but who know's that they are battling with their thought and feeling inside. And they need help and shoulder to carry on. Take a closer look to your friend especially the close ones. Be there with them during shine or rain. Sometimes, they don't know how to ask for help and let the problem eat themselves. That's why friends are needed as a supporter. A friend is the best when they can feel their friend's pain. Reminded them that every cloud has their silver lining and All won't burden us with more than we manage. I know that they will be grateful if you do that.

p/s: I hope it's not too late to say Salam Ramadhan. Utilize this Ramadhan well to make us become better Muslim. :)

How to lose weight

I feel the urged to talk about how to lose weight. From what I see, recently, many people seems to lose weight by using certain products that claims can lose weight effectively when we consume the product. For me, losing weight is not necessary using products. Why should we spend a lot of our money buying all sorts of lose weight products in order to lose weight? In addition, diet by consuming fruits and vegetables only or diet in high protein is also not good. We are encouraged to consume variety of food per day. Do not restrict too much on yourselves. Actually, we can lose weight naturally by diet and also by doing physical activity. I'm not bashing all the weight lose products. I just expressing my thought about all this matter. Thus, now, I want to explain how to lose weight without using any products or by consuming only fruits and vegetables.

1. Diet

• Eat balance food. In order to lose some weight, DO NOT SKIP ANY MEALS. We must take our breakfast, lunch and dinner each day. We usually encouraged to take meals up to 6 times per day. This is because, when we skip meals, we will tend to eat more for the next meal. Our body has such amazing mechanism. When we skip meal, our body translates that we are in starvation modes. So, the body can't process the carbohydrate that we suppose to gain from diet  to energy and will produce own sugar which come from food storage in our body (eg: glycogen stores) that will be used as energy in the body. Thus, when we consume food later, we will consume more because our body want to replenish back the food restores that they use during starvation period. 

• Second, PLAN OUR MEAL TIME. We need to take meals at the appropriate and fixed time so that our body won't think that we are in starvation mode and make own sugar to produce energy. Furthermore, when we plan our time well, the mechanism in our body will regulates effectively because they know when they should digest the meal in order to be converted into energy.
• Thirdly, EAT SMALL & FREQUENT MEAL. As I said above, we can't skip any meals but the quantity of every meals matters. If we only eat once per day but eat a lot in each meal, that's will make no difference. DO you know, if we eat a lot at one time, we will easily to get hungry. This is because when we eat a lot especially carbohydrate food, it will make our blood sugar rises or in medical terms called, hyperglycemia. (This is not mean that we have diabetes. It is only the way our body reacts with high consumption of food) One of the symptoms of hyperglycemia is frequent hunger. How is this happen? When we consume a lot of food at one time, our body will have insulin resistance, whereas the insulin cannot convert all the food into energy. Thus, the cell in the body will think that we are in starvation mode, and thus, send impulse to consume more food to overcome the starvation period.
• Fourthly, we should eat a lot of vegetable especially green leafy ones such as kangkung, sawi and such. this is because vegetables have trace of calorie which will not increase weight. Moreover, vegetables have  fibers which will increase our satiety and delay hunger. Thus, we will not consume more carbohydrate food such as rice. *Consume more fruits is not good because fruit also have calories that will increase the weight. The recommended serving for fruit is 2 serving per day. Examples of 1 serving of fruit : 1 slice of papaya, 1 whole medium apple @ pear @ orange*

    

• Fifthly, we are encourage to DRINK PLAIN WATER BEFORE MEAL in order to increase our satiety and we will not consume more rice and such.
• This is the recommended serving for lunch or dinner.
• Change the method of cooking. Instead of frying or cooking with coconut milk, consume soup based food (eg : mee soup, chicken soup), grilled food, baked food and such. If we really want to eat fry food, only eat twice per week in a small quantity such as 1 matchbox of fried chicken or one medium sized of fried fish (eg: ikan kembung, ikan selar) .

2. Physical Activity (Eg, exercising)

•  We are required to exercise at least 40 minutes per session, four times per week in order to lose weight. For your information, 30 minutes exercise per session is only to maintain weight. Exercise is not only your need to jog 40 minutes straight. When we do any vigorous activity will also considered as exercising. Exercising by means is when we moves all the parts of body vigorously. So, don't worry if you don't like to jog much, you can consider another vigorous activity as exercise.. Example of vigorous activity are swimming, aerobic, briskwalking (walking in fast pace), and even if you doing house chores (eg sweep floor, moping floor) for at least 40 minutes, it is considered as exercising. There's no reasons you can't exercise

     

     

Finally, the important parts in losing weight is self determination. When we dedicate ourselves to certain matters, we will stick to the planned matter until we achieve our goal. So, set goal for yourself but don't be too ambitious. It is normal when we can lose weight 0.5 kg to 1 kg per week but, it is not normal if we start losing weight up until 14 kg per week or month. It will danger our own health. So, be careful. Plus, being too thin is not good because it will also danger our own health. This best solution is that, try to times your height twice with 22.5 kg/m2. This will show the ideal weight that we should gain. For example, if our height is 1.55m, thus : 1.55m x 1.55 m x 22.5 kg/m2 = 54 kg. So, we should aim to have weight 54 kg not more and not less. 

Conclusion: Change your lifestyle, do not skip meals, eat in small but frequent meals and exercise. Not to forget, self determination. Live in healthier way! 

p/s : Sorry, if this post hurts anybody. I only expressing myself and share what I'd learn past years. For the expertise in this nutritional area, hope you guys will correct me if I mention wrong facts.

* A moment to remember:

Sincerely,

Future  R.D,

my new wallpaper.

love Yoochun smile and his cheekbone. huhu :-)

wordless monday.

We'll make it through.

facts of life.

It's amazing how life can change in split seconds. Just when we encountered a sad and pain memories or experiences, it encourages us to change the lifestyle into a better ones. Indeed Allah plans the best for us. He give us sadness but later, He will bring joy to us. The sadness is actually His plan to makes us closer to them, because we tend to seek Him when we are in problem. So, think positive when we encountered sadness, because Allah will never burden us with more that we can manage. Hwaiting!

randomized wednesday.

" Jika seorang pemuda jatuh cinta kepada seorang gadis, maka janganlah dia merosakkan hati si gadis dengan berterus terang kepadanya. Sebaliknya, isi hati itu hendaklah diluahkan kepada ibu ayah atau wali si gadis. Pilihlah jalan pernikahan, bukankah itu yang Allah redha?" 

- Iqbal Syarie : Dia Yang Kunikahi -

Do you know?

In order to change ourselves into a better person :

• It takes 21 days to change the habit into the good ones completely
• It takes 66 days to like the new habit

It takes a lot of determination in order to change. I'm in the middle of changing my bad habit. I hope I will make it through. Amin~

so true

When two people are meant for each other, no time is too long, no distance is too far, and no one can ever tear them apart.

The facts of life.

The Earth is round and small. That is why we keep crossing each others' life, right? Or is it fated?

last night.

Last night, I saw the sky

A star was shining brightly

It makes me thought of you

on how much you miss me

But I know, it just my feeling

My inner self that missing you so much

Even my heart aches

Everything is reminding me of you

Your face, your smile and your presence

Such memories are indeed unforgettable

But somehow, I need to move on

And start over my life

Start at the time where there isn't about me and you

 That's the only to live without you by my side

- 090112, 1210pm -

*create this after looking the notes all day long.

2012

Happy new year everyone! Time sure fly fast. I'm grown up and so do you. Did I manage to accomplished what I'd promising myself last year? *search back for my last entry on the new year*

- taken from my last year resolution -

Let us reflect back what I'd done for entire 2011 based on my resolutions last year.

1. I did read more stuff, like journal, but only for my study purposes. Not like I'm willing to read that. So, I need to make reading intellectual material is my hobby, not only reading novel.
2. This point is worthless. I think I become a shopaholic this year. Much worse than before. So, this resolution is officially deleted from the list for this year. * but I'll try to save some for the future*
3. This fact is true, but I can stop myself for being hungry all the time and go shopping. Just think that it is the fact of life.
4.   Still can't be accomplish. I don't think I'll come across this matter anytime soon. Our path is too far. Just need to keep praying and waiting because I know Allah will give me the best for myself coz Allah know Best.
5. This matter is quite hard. I'm not the person who study endlessly. I'm the person who like to enjoy myself and study with no pressure. for this year, I just hope I'll do the best in my exam and also gaining knowledge.
6. I've through a lot the past year. And experience indeed make someone more matured. I think I did, but not entirely. But I'm trying to be better than before.
7. I'd try my best.
8. Hey, for this resolution, I did go travel. to Terengganu with my friend. Next, I'm trying to go to Singapore. I really want to go to Universal Studio. *crossed finger*

For this upcoming year 2012, I don't think I'll set up new resolution. Just updating my last year resolutions, plus, adding some. But, I'll try my best to become a better person.